You’ll notice a theme running through the titles. When gays marry straights, they build a time bomb that ticks toward an emotional explosion detonated by the revelation of their homosexuality. An unsuspecting straight mate is plunged into a crisis like no other—identity threatened, mind pummeled by disbelief, disorientation, fear, confusion, anger, and grief. Trust dies. Plans evaporate. The future is murky. Life will never be the same for either spouse. In the chaos that follows a coming-out, the straight partner scrambles for understanding and balance, often with few resources. My books and DVD offer guidance. If you want to enter a virtual conversation with other straight spouses or just make a comment, visit my blog.
My Husband Is Gay: A Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Crisis addresses initial challenges through very personal stories of 26 women. It’s a life-saver for heterosexual women shocked by the discovery that their life partner is gay. Since its publication in 2001, it has touched women and families on every continent and has been translated into both Thai and Spanish.
Broadening the healing message of my earlier work, When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual is aimed at both male and female straight spouses. Co-authored with Dr. Deborah Bowman, a skilled clinical psychologist, the work explores the straight spouse’s dilemma more deeply, providing role models, practices, and activities promoting long-term emotional recovery. Authentic straight spouse experiences are examined from both personal and psychological perspectives, building a unique, adaptable recovery manual for use by individuals, therapists, students, and support groups. The result is a self-directed path to long-term healing and future happiness.
Supporting the themes of both books is a new DVD, narrated by Ali MacGraw. It demonstrates the anguish of straight spouses and their various paths to recovery. One Gay, One Straight: Complicated Marriages is useful for individuals, counselors, therapists, and teachers. With a running time of 28:31 minutes, it is perfect for classroom or support group meetings.
Please take a few moments to explore the other pages of my site. Sample the video and read excerpts of the books, linked to the images of their covers, or see what others say about them in the Review section. The Press Kit offers more information for those seeking author interviews or appearances. Of course, if you wish to buy a book or DVD, it’s easy to order them right here. I’m delighted you came to visit!
